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How To Do The Work
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How To Do The Work

Healing childhood wounds, in order to achieve well-being

All the negative events we experience affect our physical and mental health. Childhood traumas cause wounds, which impact our social behaviour and relationships as adults, but these cycles can be recognised and broken by connecting with our inner child, and healing our traumas. In How To Do The Work, psychologist Nicole LePera, founder of Holistic Psychology, describes the processes that regulate these mechanisms, and explains how to become Self-healers, in order to connect with our authentic Self, and recover.

How To Do The Work
Read in 19 min.
Listen in 24 min.

How to use the integrated approach of Holistic Psychology, in order to heal past wounds, interrupt negative patterns, and gain awareness

Psychologist Nicole LePera developed the idea of Holistic Psychology thanks to her direct interaction with patients, and her own personal experiences. Her approach is to focus simultaneously on mental health and physical well-being, because she believes that no form of effective therapy can prioritise one over the other. What’s more, many scientific studies have shown that the mind and body mutually influence one another. Holistic psychology gives us the chance to change in a manageable and lasting way, by taking responsibility for our own well-being, in order to improve and heal ourselves, break bad habits, and identify the patterns that define our lives: it works like a real awakening.

We are capable of controlling many aspects of our lives, because genetic determinism is not an absolute truth: our environment affects the expression or repression of genes, as does our behaviour. Genetic determinism does not consider the impact of family, trauma, and general background, yet these elements are of great importance. The new paradigm of epigenetics paints a clearer picture, by placing the proper emphasis on the impact our environment and everyday experiences have on our health. It also allows us to participate in our own healing, and actively take care of our well-being. Studies have also shown that we are not only influenced by our own experiences, but also by those of our predecessors: parents, grandparents and great-grandparents. While we can’t change the conditions in which these people lived, or the environment in which we were born and raised, we can connect to our inner child, in order to heal their childhood wounds and traumas, and therefore find our authentic Self.


The key ideas of "How To Do The Work"

How to use the integrated approach of Holistic Psychology, in order to heal past wounds, interrupt negative patterns, and gain awareness
The archetypes of childhood trauma: identifying childhood wounds and suppressed emotions allows us to heal
Redefining trauma so we can heal our childhood wounds, which cause issues in relationships, as well as physical problems
Trauma and stress prevent the body from functioning properly: to heal, we need to take care of our intestinal well-being, and get a good night's sleep
Our deep-seated beliefs influence the world around us through bias: having negative thoughts leads to negative perceptions
Our relationship with our parents determines the social patterns we develop as adults. To heal, we must connect with our inner child
Our ego is formed during childhood; it feeds on our thoughts and beliefs that come from our parental figures and environment, and it keeps us tied to the narrative we have of ourselves, in order to protect our inner child
Trauma bonds are unhealthy relationship patterns, which are not based on love or affection, but on dependency, and do not allow us to express our authentic Self.
If we do not have boundaries as children, we will struggle to establish them as adults: expressing our own opinions, emotions and realities in childhood is fundamental to developing our authentic Self
Becoming the parent we needed as children: reparenting helps heal the wounds of childhood trauma
We can achieve emotional maturity by rediscovering our emotions, and allowing ourselves, and other people, to express them
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