When two people meet for the first time, decide to start dating, and go on to become a couple, they experience a series of conflicting emotions.
This is quite natural, because two separate entities have chosen to get closer until they become one. Although coming together is something that they both wanted, becoming a couple often leads ultimately to a sense of disappointment.
The beginning of every love story is exciting. To get closer to one another, and get to know each other better, each half of the couple begin to do things as one, and spend as much time as they can together.
In the long run, however, this behaviour can actually do the couple more harm than good.
Many couples discover this when it is too late, when they have already reached crisis-point, as a result of having done something wrong at some stage during their courtship. For example, they recognise that they are a shadow of their former selves, and have given up too much for the couple, or they feel hopeless for having harboured the issue which is the reason for their current crisis.
Although every couple is different, there are recurring patterns which lead to the creation of bubbles of dissatisfaction because one or both parties have given up too much of themselves for love, which has an impact on their day to day mood, and their willingness to stay in the couple.
There are couples that after what seems like a lifetime together, discover that they aren’t actually happy, so they end up cheating. Then there are others who end up depressed. The truth is that the happiness of any couple depends on a set of factors, a mix of choices and considerations that keep things balanced.