Self-Reg

Stuart Shanker

Self-Reg

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There’s no such thing as a bad kid. That’s what a lifetime of experience has taught Dr. Stuart Shanker. No matter how difficult, out of control, distracted, or exhausted a child might seem, the author says there’s a way forward: self-regulation. Overturning decades of conventional wisdom, this radical new technique allows children, and the adults who care for them, to regain their composure and peace of mind. Self-regulation can dramatically improve a child’s mood, attention, and concentration. It can help children to feel empathy, and to cultivate the sorts of virtues that most parents know are vital for their child’s long-term wellbeing. Self-regulation brings about profound and lasting transformation that continues throughout life, and in his book Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life, Dr. Shanker gives practical advice for parents on how to help their own self-regulation skills, and teach their children to do the same, so that they can engage successfully with life for optimal learning, as well as social and emotional growth.

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Analysis and key concepts

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There are no bad children, only ones who behave badly because they are unable to manage something that is happening to them in a given moment

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Self-regulation can be useful in many areas of our life, but it primarily refers to how we manage stress

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Our society is based on the paradigm of willpower, which they say, can help us achieve anything we choose

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Living in a state of hyperarousal makes the limbic system so sensitive to stress that it takes very little to trigger it

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Self control can be replaced by self-regulation to transform human behaviour

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The adult’s job is to act as an external regulator at times when the child is not yet able to self-regulate

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The parent-child relationship is a growth space, it is fertile terrain for learning self-regulation

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Children spend most of their time doing activities that can cause them a great deal of stress

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Understanding the Biological Domain will shed new light on a child’s behaviour

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Emotional dominoes and the importance of learning to express feelings

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Learning takes place via many different processes, which are all part of the cognitive domain and can become problematic for both children and adolescents

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Human beings have an innate desire for connection, which can also cause great stress

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Children have a natural capacity for empathy, but they also need help from their parents to regulate their reactions in the pro-social domain

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Anxiety and depression among teens have become a huge issue in modern society

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Take-home message

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Many useful tips to:

  • Improve your relationship with your children.
  • Discover a constructive way to overcome stress.
  • Learn how to manage out of control children and young adults.

Dr. Stuart Shanker is a distinguished research professor emeritus of philosophy and psychology at York University in Toronto, and creator of The MEHRIT Centre, which works with school boards across Canada to implement Self-Reg in both teacher and parent education. He completed his further education at the University of Toronto, where he won several awards, including scholarships to study at Oxford, where he obtained his doctorate. He now lives in Ontario.

Publishing house:

Penguin Books

Year:

2017

Pages:

320

ISBN:

978-0143110415