Thich Nhat Hanh

True Love

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How do we know if love is true? What characteristics does love need to have for it to be considered true? What does Buddhism teach us about how to practise love towards those around us? In True Love: A Practice for Awakening the Heart, Buddhist monkThich Nhat Hanh offers advice, a few short meditations, and a short guide to help us learn to love better, starting with learning to love ourselves.

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Analysis and key concepts

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The four components of true love according to Buddhism: kindness, compassion, joy, and freedom

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Four mantras to help us practise true love

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Deep listening and loving speech are forms of meditation that bring relief and love to those around us

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To truly love the person you are with, you must make peace with yourself

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You can meditate at any time, anywhere, even while walking or on the phone

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If everyone practised mindfulness and meditation, the world would be a better place

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Quotes

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Take-home message

01. The four components of true love according to Buddhism: kindness, compassion, joy, and freedom

Contemplating the essence of true love requires a certain level of awareness and depth: truly loving the person you are with, as well as those around you, is the result of a concerted effort, and is not something that happens by chance, and nor does it necessarily come that easily. So it’s worth asking yourself how you can nurture the sentiment, and encourage it to blossom within you so that you can express it to others. Buddhist teachings can help us with this, because they clearly define the four key elements necessary for love to be defined as true.

The first of these is maitri, which means kindness. Kindness is not only about being willing; it is also the ability to spark joy and happiness in the person you love. Maitri can be practised through understanding: only by studying the other person, their feelings and their deepest being can we really love them.

The second element of love is karuna, which means compassion. To really love someone, we must be able to alleviate their pain: once again the key is in the observation and study of the other person, in order to gain in-depth knowledge of their pain, and therefore also the desire and ability to comfort them and make them feel better.

The third element is mudita, which means joy. It is possible to love someone and not make them happy, and for someone to love another person but make them unhappy. However, if there is no joy in love, it is not true love. If you are suffering all the time, and you make the person you love suffer, this is not true love.

The fourth element is Upeshka, which means freedom. True love brings freedom to the one who gives it and the one who receives it, which is why we need to be sure that the person we love feels free. To be sure of this we can ask ourselves a question: “do we both have enough space in this relationship?”.

If these four elements - maitri, karuna, mudita and upeksha - are present, it is true love: at this point we just have to work hard to keep it that way, continuing to check that these four components are always present.

02. Four mantras to help us practise true love

03. Deep listening and loving speech are forms of meditation that bring relief and love to those around us

04. To truly love the person you are with, you must make peace with yourself

05. You can meditate at any time, anywhere, even while walking or on the phone

06. If everyone practised mindfulness and meditation, the world would be a better place

07. Quotes

08. Take-home message

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Many useful tips to:

Manifest true love by following the teachings of Buddhism.
Learn to practise simple meditation and use mantra to be more loving to those around you.
Let go of the ties that bind us to pain to reach our Nirvana, the foundation of being.

The author

Thich Nhat Hanh was a Vietnamese Buddhist monk, who was famous for his commitment to non-violent activism. During the Vietnam War, he was imprisoned, tortured, and eventually forced into exile. He only returned to Vietnam in the 2000s, after living in the USA for many years, where he became friends with Martin Luther King, and also several years in France. He wrote three books on the history of Buddhism in Vietnam, and poems that have been translated into many languages.

Edition

Publishing house:

Shambhala Pubns

Year:

2023

Pages:

112

ISBN:

978-1645472445